I hope all my readers have a fantastic time over Christmas and New Year!
I had a very happy boy this morning in Theo! Will let you’s all know how the rest of the day goes.
Yup slightly late I know … I’ve been a busy bunny over the festive period however!!
The Christmas Holidays were certainly filled with surprises with our family!! Theo especially, Christmas is normally something that goes completely over his head, he hates the mess of the decorations and just wants to clean them up … that obsession stayed … he still wants to “Tidy up”. This Christmas however, he’s actually been quite excited about Santa coming!! Don’t get me wrong, he is still terrified of the big cuddly jolly man, he did actually count down the days of Santa coming!! As you can see in the following video …
I genuinely can’t put into words how much it’s actually meant to all of the family how much his understanding of Christmas has meant to us, lets just say that over the moon doesn’t even cover it!!
All three of the lads had a magical time on Christmas Day, Ali spent the day with us and Stu’s family then headed off up to Scotland early evening so that he could go and have another Christmas Day with his Dad’s side of the family (two Christmas dinners in two days the lucky lil thing!!). Then Alex and Theo were engrossed in their new things, Theo hid himself away in his bedroom wanting to just obsessed over his new DVD player and new DVD’s. Alex on the other hand had me reading all his new stories, playing with his new lego and other super hero toys. Again to say he was happy is a massive understatement that cannot be put into words!!
Grandma Julie got Theo a Talking Tom cuddly cat, (you may have seen Talking Tom free applications on your smart phones … They’re fantastic for getting the kids to interact with!! There’s a multitude of characters to choose from but if you look for Talking Tom you’ll be linked straight too them!!). Theo has “Eeoo’s Om Caat” talking away to him constantly now and has started repeating more words and phrases finding it hilarious to have a talking cat. He is now however getting rather frustrated that our cat wont talk back to him haha!! Very cute too watch!!
I’ve had a couple of nights out with my inlaw family (an absolute luxury to me as I hardly ever go out at nights!), Christmas Eve (birthday celebration as my birthday is Christmas Day). A meal for a cousin’s birthday which ended up in us staying out til the nightclub closed and then not leaving (Stu’s) Mam’s until silly o’clock in the morning!! On New Years Day Mother-in-law and I went to our local for what was going to be a few drinks in the afternoon and well, we didn’t leave the local until closing time!! It was an absolutely fantastic time because so many people I hadn’t seen since giving my job up at the bar were in and I got the chance to have a catch up with them. (Thankfully I (think I) remember it all!!).
Stu and I also had a chance to catch up with friends at home that we hadn’t seen or spent quality time with for such a long time. It had been far too long and will definitely be remedied, we’re definitely not leaving it so long again!!
Yesterday Alisdair and Theo went back to school and I think it was a relief to both of them to be fair. Deffo was Theo, he was such a happy little boy when he came in from his school Taxi. I think it took a hell of a lot out of him though, by 6pm he took himself off to bed and we didn’t hear him for long!! Thankfully over the holidays he found out what it was to stay in bed and just relax!! So hopefully that’ll be him for at least another hour going by holiday routine, what’s the bet school puts him back into his previous routine lol. So far so good however, it’s 6:15am and he’s still asleep, before the holidays it was a 4 – 5am rise! *keeping my fingers and toes crossed that Stu and I can fall back into a routine where we’re not getting up at pre-Christmas times still for long if it does last!!*
The only thing that has let the beginning of the New Year down is the break down in the central heating and the boiler however it’s all good now so we’re back on the right tracks!!
I hope you’ve all had a magical Christmas, the most fabulous of New Years and I hope that 2013 brings you health, wealth and happiness!!
Thanks again for reading!!
I’ve been sitting thinking back across the past year and well what a year it’s been!!
Stu and I have continued to grow and develop as a couple, yeah we’ve had our ups and downs but we’ve always been there for each other and no matter how difficult things have been we’ve supported each other through everything. He’s an amazing person, I don’t know what I’d ever do without him.
Alisdair is forever turning into the young man, which is absolutely making me feel so old but I genuinely couldn’t be any more proud of him either. He took his options for his GCSE’s at school and has stuck in doing really well at reaching target grades, well all except PE but lets be fair, it’s not everyone’s forte! He spent the best part of 6 weeks in Europe with his Dad’s family living experiences I can only dream of and shared all of them with us when he got back, so proud of his photo’s and treasures that he bought along the way. He goes with them every year for the summer holidays from school and it’s a long time to be away from him but hearing his stories and seeing how happy he is and sharing all the knowledge he’s gained it genuinely makes it such an amazing experience for us also!
Theo, well what can I say about him, every day he continues to strive, develop, surprise, frustrate, however most of all, make us smile! His speech has absolutely came on, fair enough it may only be the people that’s around him every day that understands him but the progress has been amazing. He’s grown in confidence in different situations, our holiday to Southerness for example, we were so worried that the change to his routine would have knocked him for six but he settled absolutely fine! He didn’t care that he was away from home, he absolutely loved seeing his family that he hadn’t seen in years having remembered all of them and called them by name (in his “language”) without being prompted too! He’s became more acceptant to playing with others and sharing his toys, which was a massive no-no this time last year! On the whole it’s been a fantastic year for his progress and is ending the year as a happier and more confident, loving boy.
Alex, he too has developed massively, he’s genuinely such an intelligent child! Having started year 1 at school his reading and imagination work has been truly unbelievable! His confidence has been a little patchy but we’re working on that and have seen it grow and develop before our eyes too. You’d swear that the little man has been here before! He’s forever reminiscing about things we’ve all done together and relaying absolutely EVERY little detail about what’s happened, he’s like a walking diary for his life! His Mammy is going to be having a baby in a few months and he’s never been more proud about going to have a little brother, it’s so lovely to see the pride in him telling our friends and family that he’s going to be a big brother. It brings a tear to my eye every time!
Unfortunately it’s not all been high’s along the way this year, we lost a dear friend Jimmy within weeks of receiving a diagnosis of cancer in the stomach. My Uncle Sandy to natural causes, I hadn’t seen him in such a long time but it absolutely hadn’t eased the pain of saying goodbye. Then of course my Uncle Bill a couple of months later. Uncle Bill went through a long ongoing struggle of alzheimer’s and other medical issues it was just a matter of time, again however, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve got to prepare yourself it doesn’t hurt any less.
Death may take away the person but nothing takes away the love and memories!
Over the years we’ve all lost friends, family and loved ones. I absolutely believe we’ll see them again, and I know that this Christmas they’ll all be celebrating together and making sure that my Ickle Bubbs is having a fantastic time until we’re all together again.
I want to thank all of my family and friends for being there for me through out the year. I love and appreciate you’s each in your own little ways!!
Stacey P – For seeming to always have a day off for bringing me back home from Dumfries!! Coming down and keeping the friendship and bond with the family and me even with the miles between us!!
Kenty – Just for being you in general, you’re always the sensible one to talk too. You make time for us when we need you and well our debates are always fantastic – we’ll always be able to agree to disagree after a few hours (and drinks!) haha!! You were my best friend down here before I even met ya!!
Lucy and John – You’ve also both been there for me since before I moved here, it’s ridiculous that we only live around the corner and never see each other. I was so proud to have been invited to your wedding, the kids and you’s were so beautiful, it couldn’t have meant more to have been there to celebrate the day with you all!!
Tammy and Ecky – You’s are like my sisters and I love you’s unconditionally forever more. You’s have dragged me out of the darkest of times and are always at the other end of the phone. We just need to see each other more often!!
Jackson and Jasmine – Always my little miracles, growing up far too quickly and it doesn’t matter what you’s are going through I’m ALWAYS here for you’s!! Just a phone call gets me there as soon as I can be!!
Kirsty – I know we’re not in touch as much as we should be but with what we’ve been through in our lives together I simply can’t class you as anything less than a best friend. Your friendship has always meant the world to me and again, we just need to see each other and keep in touch more often! I have to admit tho, when we do get together it’s as if we’ve just picked up where we left it the last time!
Marion – I spent years wondering about you and I’m so pleased that you’ve been able to step back into our lives. I don’t need to go into detail about how much it’s actually meant but you’ve helped so much you’d not believe!
If I’ve not mentioned you – well this is a big enough essay already haha!! Those that I love and respect know it.
I wish you’s all a fantastic Christmas, a brilliant Hogmanay (you can take the girl outta Scotland, not Scotland out of the girl however haha!!) and all the best for a fantastic and magical 2013!! Love and hugs to you all!!
Christmas and Autism means a whole mixed bag of emotions and feelings for our family that most others take for granted.
While most readers of this blog are busy spending December decorating their houses with beautiful decorations, we have to keep them minimal as this causes Theo to get anxious and highly strung. Where most people are taking their children to see Santa, we’re trying to teach Theo that this jolly happy person isn’t someone that is supposed to terrify him. While other people are taking their children to deliver presents and cards to friends and family we’re trying to get Theo to accept a change to his normal routine to be able to do this. While other people are taking their children to Christmas parties we’re trying to get him settled because he’s came into contact with too many people that have given him a sensory overload. While other people are putting Christmas presents below the tree and watching their children getting really excited to see them grow in piles and guessing what’s underneath the wrapping we’re locking the presents away because anything with wrapping paper around it makes Theo nervous because he doesn’t understand that it’s something that’s to be saved for a specific day and he can’t have it til then!
Theo absolutely loves Christmas Day however, Christmas day to us is like most other families, getting up at silly o’clock to see the kids opening their presents however that’s probably where the similarities end to most families,
Theo tears through his paper, carefully making sure that every scrap goes into the rubbish bag, neatly organising his new things into their specific piles, clothes in one pile, toys into a box, books in a colour specific order, money into the money jar and so on … If one of his brothers are making a mess he’ll stop opening his presents to make sure that their mess is tidied up then return to his when he’s satisfied.
At dinner time we’re at his Grandma Julies, with many other members of the family, which in hand makes him anxious and will melt down until he can start eating dinner, he’ll do things that he knows that he’s not allowed to do, keep pulling at either his Dad’s face or my face to get our attention focused onto him again. When dinner is served he’ll settle again and we’re sorted out, as long as there is nothing green on his plate! After dinner we’re back to the Mum and Dad attention seeking until the buffet is put out for when the rest of the family arrive. When he’s eating again he’s all happy, however Theo has no understanding of what feeling full or being hungry is, so he’d pretty much eat until he is sick.
When we return home he wants straight to bed, the day has been far too much for him and he just wants to be in a dark room with his familiar surroundings.
On Boxing Day he takes a bit more interest in his new things, he’ll take them into his room and self adapt to them being there, if there’s anything that he doesn’t like he will not accept it being in his room until he’s gotten used to the item. We spend the day encouraging him to interact with his new toys, sometimes he’ll cooperate! Mostly he wont however because they’re a change in his routine.
Autism makes our Christmas a very interesting time! I wouldn’t change it for the world tho!!
I have to apologise to not being around the past little while, I’ve had lots of changes in my life and by goodness some of them have been challenging!!
The loss of my dear Uncle has to be the worst one. We’ve been aware for a long time that his days were being counted and to be fair he lasted a hell of a lot longer than we thought he actually would but it doesn’t take away the pain when he actually went. My Uncle Bill was a sufferer of Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease, with a lot of connected issues to go hand in hand with it. I returned home to Dumfries to give my support to my cousin’s and Aunt who are deeply missing him and attend his funeral to say goodbye for the final time.
This made me realise that the main reason that I keep going back home is to attend funerals, in 2012 I’ve returned for 3 alone and two of them have been family members that I’ve not seen much since moving to Newcastle – in respect of that one of my New Year resolutions is going to be making more of an effort to return home more often to spend time with family and friends!
Theo’s hit a new stage in his life! His new word of the moment is “No” and if things aren’t going his way along with that word it’s like meltdown central!! Very stressful, for everyone concerned!! It’s his Christmas Play at school next week however so he seems to be concentrating on that for the time being … here’s hoping that it doesn’t make him worse when he see’s the crowd of parents and loved ones of all the children when he’s got to get on stage to perform!!
Ali’s decided that he’s wanting to become a carpenter! Which would be fantastic if my back garden didn’t look as if it was a scrap yard for random wood that he’s scavenged while he’s out and about!! I’m going to see if I can get him a shed to keep it all in … either that or he could build himself one!!
I’m currently trying to decide what I’m getting the kids for Christmas!! I’ve managed to get everyone else done and out of the way but my kids are proving to be a much more harder task!! They’re all after more stuff than what exists in the Argos catalogue and Toys’R’Us combined but deciding what they’d actually enjoy the most and make the most out of is proving difficult! Next week I’m taking one day and going intensive shopping! Here’s hoping that I’m able to get everything for them on that day because I’m not risking it on another haha!! It’s getting too close to the busy day’s for my liking!! lol.
Anyway! I shall be posting up new more regular blogs again! You’ve officially been warned haha!! Anything you’re wanting covered – as always – Let me know and I’ll do my best!!
Thanks for reading!